There’s no way around it: experiencing negative emotions like anger, frustration and sadness is simply a part of life. But there are definitely ways to silence these inner screaming children until their voices are reduced to a dull murmur in your mind.
You might feel as though there are one or two (or more) negative emotions you tend to feel the most during your day-to-day life. For me, impatience, frustration and sadness are definitely among my top five.
So what can you do to combat these Negative Nancies filling up your headspace? I’ve been trying out a few techniques lately, and I’ve listed them below:
1. Start by feeling grateful for your negative emotions. We feel things like anger, sadness and fear because our minds are telling us that there’s something to be on guard for. But if you feel these things too often, it can be exhausting because they put your nervous system into overdrive. Recognize that your body is trying to tell you something when you feel anxious or sad, and mentally thank it for the message.
2. Next, tune into the feeling you’re experiencing and identify it as an entity. Think of its colour, shape, size and vibration. This way, you’ll be separating yourself from the emotion, helping you to realize that you aren’t your feelings. Your emotions are like waves washing over you: they come and go, and like most things, they pass with time.
3. Sit quietly as you send light and love to the emotion and breathe deeply. This will help you centre yourself and uplift the vibration of the emotion you’re feeling to lessen its impact on you.
4. Think about what or who is making you angry, and try to remember that everything is always working out perfectly, even if it doesn’t seem that way. Also, people are only ever doing the best they can for what they know, and you never know what someone else is going through.
5. Remember that you’re simply a conduit for these emotions, not the emotions themselves. This way, it will be easier for you to let the emotions pass through you like water, instead of latching on to you and bringing you down. Be mindful of your feelings as they come, observing and reflecting on them without judgment.
Do you have any ideas for making the most of your emotions?